Never stop lusting

You fall in lust.  It’s all a thrill.  You see no flaws when you’re in lust.  You foresee no hiccups.  Then, with the passing of time, imperfections surface.  This lust no longer consumes every moment as it once did.

I’m not referring to the lust for your significant other.

I’m referring to the lust for your work.

Just as there is that “heart-pounding, always-thinking-about-you” newness when you fall in lust with someone, there is the same feeling when you discover what you lust to do.  You’re obsessed with new ideas.  You remain awake late into the night dreaming of the possibilities.

But that all-consuming lust fades.  What you do becomes monotonous.  Your eyes wander.  Your heart is distracted.  This is when some quit, off in search of that “new” feeling again.

Now is the time to delve further to renew your lust for your work.   Plunge into the minutiae.  Perhaps you’ll uncover an area you never explored.  Venture into something that doesn’t seem related to your work:  take a class; visit a museum; or take a weekend-trip.  Maybe you’ll realize that a not-so-obvious partnership provides you new perspective on your work.

However you’re able to revive that lust for your work, find a way.


Why do we wait?

Why do we wait until a new year to resolve to live better? Why do we wait until the kids head to college to indulge in a hobby? Why do we wait until we have a few more dollars in the bank to really live? Why do we wait until a loved one is no longer around to wish we had spent time with them?

Psst you don’t have the luxury of waiting.

No leaps required. No large sums of money either. Take a teensy step in the direction you want your life to go today. Then keep taking a teensy step each day.


You’re Brave. You’re a Fool. You’ll Be Broke.

These are more or less the comments I’ve heard in the last couple of years.  Since making the decision to leave the practice of law and become a chocolatier, my friends, family, and near strangers have offered encouragement and support.  I feel blessed to have individuals in my life who are in my corner.  Many have said that I’m brave for making such a dramatic change after more than a decade as a lawyer.  I don’t believe that leaving the law is brave but rather know that following a path that makes me happy is the only way.  Plus, I believe in living without regrets.

So, in the near future, I plan to launch a business that will offer artisanal chocolates.  Spending the hours in my day doing something that gives me joy isn’t courageous.  I would have it no other way, even if it robs me of the security (financial and otherwise) that I’ve known for years.

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