Never stop lusting

You fall in lust.  It’s all a thrill.  You see no flaws when you’re in lust.  You foresee no hiccups.  Then, with the passing of time, imperfections surface.  This lust no longer consumes every moment as it once did.

I’m not referring to the lust for your significant other.

I’m referring to the lust for your work.

Just as there is that “heart-pounding, always-thinking-about-you” newness when you fall in lust with someone, there is the same feeling when you discover what you lust to do.  You’re obsessed with new ideas.  You remain awake late into the night dreaming of the possibilities.

But that all-consuming lust fades.  What you do becomes monotonous.  Your eyes wander.  Your heart is distracted.  This is when some quit, off in search of that “new” feeling again.

Now is the time to delve further to renew your lust for your work.   Plunge into the minutiae.  Perhaps you’ll uncover an area you never explored.  Venture into something that doesn’t seem related to your work:  take a class; visit a museum; or take a weekend-trip.  Maybe you’ll realize that a not-so-obvious partnership provides you new perspective on your work.

However you’re able to revive that lust for your work, find a way.

signature

Why do we wait?

Why do we wait until a new year to resolve to live better? Why do we wait until the kids head to college to indulge in a hobby? Why do we wait until we have a few more dollars in the bank to really live? Why do we wait until a loved one is no longer around to wish we had spent time with them?

Psst you don’t have the luxury of waiting.

No leaps required. No large sums of money either. Take a teensy step in the direction you want your life to go today. Then keep taking a teensy step each day.

signature

What Are You Afraid Of?

That was the question (or perhaps the answer(s) to this question) that tormented me for the last several weeks.  So, I started thinking and reading a lot about fear—what it is, why it arises, why it paralyzes, and how to keep it from paralyzing.  We know that fear and danger are different.  Danger is real; it’s external.  But fear lives in us, and we can keep it in check.

“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future.  It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist.  That is near insanity . . . .  Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice.” ― Will Smith’s character in After Earth

Personally, fear has stopped me dead from trying new adventures, big and small.  Why?  Sometimes, it’s just the fear of failing at something new.  Maybe it’s being afraid of finding out that I wasn’t as good at something as I thought I was in my mind?  Or maybe it’s the fear of others seeing me fail and being judged?

Continue reading